Be happy before you can make some one happy

Can I give something which I don't have. So for sharing happiness I must have happiness. So first step is I must be happy. So I do everything which makes me happy.

By the way:
I  say, one must only do what makes one  feel happy and satisfied after doing that and feel no regret therafter.Post your action/ passing of the day you must feel it was just as smooth a flow as water flows in river.
If one feels he has done lot of obligation for doing family / common duties / work / routine then he does not enjoy that work so better one does not do that.Person doing work which makes him feel frustrated, which makes him feel remember and count the number of obligations he has done on others( family members, society, nation,clients,friends) etc means person needs lot of help and learning ( spiritualism) and is badly suffering. I say, till you achieve level of satisfaction and enjoyment it is perfectly in tune if you do not care for some people / some responsibilities,some  participation and sharing common goals. As what a hurt, weak, hungry can give??? So try to first get. And the day you feel your stomack/ coffers ( greed) are all full , the moment a realisation comes that enough is enough goodness will flow automatically from you as tea over flows from a cup when full.
Some other place I will take on size of your cup. For Kalmadi and alike it can be 10000 cr which is less and will be unhappy till he grabs more and more .For someothers  like Late B. L. Tholiyaji it may be anything above basic needs which is surplus and meant for giving and sharing.
So coming back to main topic of my mail: WE must speak to self : World goes on without I trying to be nice , without I trying to share responsibilities, without I contributing to family, society, world, without I having courtesy, even if I show my back, even if I take responsibilty and do not do, even if I just lecture and advise, and expect but do not do my bit. I shall and have never done anything where I feel that society compelled me to do this, I did this because some unseen culture/ system wanted me to do this way or that way. No I will not do that way. I will do only what gives me happiness and makes me feel satisfied. Because no unsatisfied soul can spread happiness. Frustrated person can only spread poison. First lookafterself and then only help others and be happy.
Thanks and Regards,
Alok Tholiya