Saturday, December 20, 2014

experience the difficulties of those who contributed to make your life.....

A young man went to seek an important position at a large printing company. He passed the initial interview and was going to meet the director for the final interview. The director saw his resume, it was excellent. And asked, '
- Have you received a scholarship for school?' The boy replied, " No '.
-' It was your father who paid for your studies? '
-' Yes.'- He replied.
-' Where does your father work? '
-' My father is a Blacksmith'
The Director asked the young to show him his hands.
The young man showed a pair of hands soft and perfect.
-' Have you ever helped your parents at their job? '
-' Never, my parents always wanted me to study and read more books. Besides, he can do the job better than me.
The director said:
-' I have got a request: When you go home today, go and wash the hands of your father and then come see me tomorrow morning.'
The young felt his chance to get the job was high.
When he returned to his house he asked his father if he would allow him to wash their hands.
His father felt strange, happy, but with mixed feelings and showed their hands to his son. The young washed his hands, little by little. It was the first time that he noticed his father's hands were wrinkled and they had so many scars. Some bruises were so painful that his skin shuddered when he touched them.
This was the first time that the young man recognized what it meant for this pair of hands to work every day to be able to pay for his study. The bruises on the hands were the price that he payed for their education, his school activities and his future.
After cleaning his father's hands the young man stood in silence and began to tidy and clean up the workshop. That night, father and son talked for a long time.
The next morning, the young man went to the office of the director.
The Director noticed the tears in the eyes of the young when He asked him: -' Can you tell me what you did and what you learned yesterday at your house?'
The boy replied: -' I washed my father's hands and when I finished I stayed and cleaned his workshop '
-' Now I know what it is to appreciate and recognize that without my parents , I would not be who I am today . By helping my father I now realize how difficult and hard it is to do something on my own. I have come to appreciate the importance and the value in helping the family.
The director said, "This is what I look for in my people. I want to hire someone who can appreciate the help of others , a person who knows the hardship of others to do things, and a person who does not put money as his only goal in life". ' You are hired '.
A child that has been coddled, Protected and usually given him what he wants, develops a mentality of " I have the right ' and will always put himself first, ignoring the efforts of their parents. If we are this type of protective parent are we really showing love or are we destroying our children?
You can give your child a big house , good food , computer classes , watch on a big screen TV . But when you're washing the floor or painting a wall , please let him experience that too.
After eating have them wash the dishes with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you have no money to hire someone to do this it's because you want to love them the right way . No matter how rich you are, you want them to understand. One day your hair will have gray hair, like the father of this young man.
The most important thing is that your child learns to appreciate the effort and to experience the difficulties and learn the ability to work with others to get things done. "

Sunday, September 14, 2014

I know for sure these troubles don't belong in the house with my wife and the children

This is a story.... 

I hired a plumber to help me repairs at an old farmhouse. He already had a rough and tiresome day. 
* a flat tire 
* his electric drill fault 
* his old car break down. 
* his tiffin was spoilt 
* he lost his wallet 
* his bank was calling for loan repayments 

In all the tension and stress he finished my repairs. 

Since his car broke down, I drove him home. While I drove him home, he sat silently, but I can mark his agony and restlessness. 

On arriving, he invited me in to meet his family. As we walked toward the front door, he paused at a small tree, touching the tips of the branches with both hands and closed his eyes. 

When the door opened, he was smiling and happy. In seconds he underwent an amazing transformation. 

He hugged his two small children, gave his wife a kiss, laughed, and never even slightly make them feel the troubles that he had encountered that day. 

I was astonished, aback and curious. Seeing my inquisitive eyes he told “Oh, that's my Trouble Tree. My best friend. 
My trouble carrier for the night”. He replied. “I know I can't help having troubles on the job, but one thing's for sure, those troubles don't belong in the house with my wife and the children. So I just hang them up on the tree every night when I come home and ask God to take care of them. Then in the morning I pick them up again.” He smiled and shared secret that “when I come out in the morning to pick 'em up, there aren't nearly as many as I remember hanging there the night before !!” 

Life may be a burden of worries, but there is a way to keep our loved ones untouched from these worries. 

Time will heal every wound. 

Spreading happiness to our loved ones also in turn relieves us of stress. 

TOUGH TIMES DON'T LAST , BUT TOUGH PEOPLE DO. 

Sunday, August 17, 2014

अनुशासन का, घर का , परिवार का, दोस्तों का, रिश्ता कभी मत तोड़ना

बाप पतंग उड़ा रहा था बेटा ध्यान से देख रहा था
थोड़ी देर बाद बेटा बोला पापा ये धागे की वजह से पतंग और ऊपर नहीं जा पा रही है इसे तोड़ दो
बाप ने धागा तोड़ दिया
पतंग थोडा सा और ऊपर गई और उसके बाद निचे आ गई
तब बाप ने बेटे को समझाया
बेटा जिंदगी में हम जिस उचाई पर है,
हमें अक्सर लगता है ,
की कई चीजे हमें
और ऊपर
जाने से
रोक रही है,
जैसे
घर,
परिवार,
अनुशासन,
दोस्ती,
और हम उनसे आजाद होना चाहते है,
मगर यही चीज होती है
जो हमें उस उचाई पर बना के रखती है.
उन चीजो के बिना हम एक बार तो ऊपर जायेंगे
मगर
बाद में हमारा वो ही हश्र होगा, जो पतंग का हुआ.
इसलिए जिंदगी में कभी भी
अनुशासन का,
घर का ,
परिवार का,
दोस्तों का,
रिश्ता कभी मत तोड़ना

Thursday, August 7, 2014

Lines full of blood in aansu / tears

“थक गया हूँ तेरी नौकरी से ऐ जिन्दगी;
 मुनासिब होगा मेरा हिसाब कर दे...!!”
 
भरी जेब ने ' दुनिया ' की पहेचान करवाई 
और खाली जेब ने ' इन्सानो ' की.  
 
जब लगे पैसा कमाने, तो समझ आया, 
शौक तो मां-बाप के पैसों से पुरे होते थे,
अपने पैसों से तो सिर्फ जरूरतें पुरी होती है।
 
 माचिस की ज़रूरत यहाँ नहीं पड़ती, 
यहाँ आदमी आदमी से जलता है..
 
 दुनिया के बड़े से बड़े साइंटिस्ट ये ढूँढ रहे है कि'
 मंगल ग्रह पर जीवन है या नहीं I 
 पर आदमी ये नहीं ढूँढ रहा कि;
 जीवन में मंगल है या नही.. 
 
ज़िन्दगी में ना ज़ाने कौनसी बात "आख़री" होगी, ना ज़ाने कौनसी रात "आख़री" होगी..  
मिलते, जुलते, बातें करते रहो यार एक दूसरे से,  ना जाने कौनसी "मुलाक़ात" आख़री होगी.. 
 
 अगर जींदगी मे कुछ पाना हो तो तरीके बदलो, ईरादे नही.. 
ग़ालिब ने खूब कहा है..:  ऐ चाँद तू किस मजहब का है ईद भी तेरी और करवाचौथ भी तेरा..  
 
 भगवान से वरदान माँगा  कि दुश्मनों से  पीछा छुड़वा दो,            
  अचानक दोस्त कम हो गए... 
 
  " जितनी भीड़ , बढ़ रही ज़माने में..। 
     लोग उतनें ही, अकेले होते  जा रहे हे...।।।  
 
  इस दुनिया के  लोग भी कितने  अजीब है ना ;       
 सारे खिलौने छोड़ कर  जज़बातों से खेलते हैं...

  दोस्तो के साथ जीने का इक मौका  दे दे ऐ खुदा...          
तेरे साथ तो   हम मरने के बाद  भी रह लेंगे.
 
“तारीख हज़ार  साल में बस इतनी सी बदली है…   
तब दौर पत्थर का था अब लोग पत्थर के हैं..." 
 

Sunday, May 11, 2014

cheating . double cross, back stabbing ..coming over it

धोखा खाने वाले या तो बिखर जाते है या सवर जाते 
जो बिखर जाते है उनकी सासो की लडी बिखर जाती है
जो सवर जाते है वो ईस जमाने कुछ नया कर जाते है

Sunday, May 4, 2014

I HOPE YOU STILL TAKE THE TIME TO RUN THROUGH THE RAIN.

A little girl had been shopping with her Mom in Wal-Mart. She must have been 6 years old, this beautiful red haired, freckle faced image of innocence.
It was pouring outside. The kind of rain that gushes over the top of rain gutters, so much in a hurry to hit the earth it has no time to flow down the spout.. We all stood there, under the awning, just inside the door of the Wal-Mart.
We waited, some patiently, others irritated because nature messed up their hurried day.
I am always mesmerized by rainfall. I got lost in the sound and sight of the heavens washing away the dirt and dust of the world. Memories of running, splashing so carefree as a child came pouring in as a welcome reprieve from the worries of my day.
Her little voice was so sweet as it broke the hypnotic trance we were all caught in, 'Mom let's run through the rain,'
She said.
'What?' Mom asked.
'Let's run through the rain!' She repeated.
'No, honey. We'll wait until it slows down a bit,' Mom replied.
This young child waited a minute and repeated: 'Mom, let's run through the rain..'
'We'll get soaked if we do,' Mom said.
'No, we won't, Mom. That's not what you said this morning,' the young girl said as she tugged at her Mom's arm.
'This morning? When did I say we could run through the rain and not get wet?'
'Don't you remember? When you were talking to Daddy about his cancer, you said, ' If God can get us through this, He can get us through anything! ' '
The entire crowd stopped dead silent.. I swear you couldn't hear anything but the rain.. We all stood silently. No one left. Mom paused and thought for a moment about what she would say.
Now some would laugh it off and scold her for being silly. Some might even ignore what was said. But this was a moment of affirmation in a young child's life. A time when innocent trust can be nurtured so that it will bloom into faith.
'Honey, you are absolutely right. Let's run through the rain. If GOD let's us get wet, well maybe we just need washing,' Mom said.
Then off they ran. We all stood watching, smiling and laughing as they darted past the cars and yes, through the puddles. They got soaked.
They were followed by a few who screamed and laughed like children all the way to their cars. And yes, I did. I ran. I got wet. I needed washing.
Circumstances or people can take away your material possessions, they can take away your money, and they can take away your health. But no one can ever take away your precious memories...So, don't forget to make time and take the opportunities to make memories every day.
I HOPE YOU STILL TAKE THE TIME TO RUN THROUGH THE RAIN.
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