Personal and confidential but sharing as no one tells you this except Alok

 To, 

Letter to myself and my lovely grown up kids......

Subject: Mummy's health ( mental and physical)

Enough is enough. She had enough of it in last 30 years. So lets us try to not to do blame game, nakhara and tantrums which disturbs her.

She needs break too. A bit of pampering, bit of kindness, bit of understanding, bit of assistance, bit of restraint on our tongue  and love will give her all that which one waits all life to get. And all this comes in abundance and for free. So why not give her?

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Physical:

If she has little high cholesterol @ age 54 then it will keep going up. Think how it can be prevented.

If she has low D3 and low vitamin D  then that is only available in sun. ( chemical are bad). So find ways how she can be in sun in the morning for 10 to 15 minutes.

Her body is Jamming. She needs stretch  and other exercises.rather it is a problem with all of us.  So we have to ensure that how we can be less before TV, mobile , sedentary  activities and be walking, dancing, joking,playing sport , swimming, hiking, etc etc..

On working days of three of us she is tied to kitchen . Then again she is in kitchen around 1 pm. for my lunch. Then she waits for aksha and as for her reasons for typical profession she may come at any time between 2 to 5 or not come without info. In between tea time. Then starts day dinner preparations. Then I will return @ 7 pm for dinner. Then Pratik will come at anytime around 7.30 to 8.30 pm. Then she is again up for milk for me and  night salad /fruits/  soup etc for Aksha.

In between she is watching some TV shows.

1. When do I talk to her?

2. when does she get break for sun light?

3. Who can serve her sometime atleast a hot cup of tea? Last time when I made it I can't even remember.

4. How can we help her find time for yoga, dance, games , etc for 30 minutes in the morning and evening?

4. How can v give rest on Sundays or holidays like on last Sunday when we did not even go to her bedroom till late morning and let her sleep and incidentally  Aksha took all of us out for a lovely movie Yeh Jawani.... and then other fun ......Recently few Sundays were memorable. Thanks to family and friends for making it so.  I invite other friends and well wishers to at least spend 2 - 3 hours with us (once in few months) solely for the purpose of making that time a memorable one and no showoff and no hurting with comments giving full dignity to each other which our society does not know to repose on a humble ( small ) person.

So I hope Dear Aksha and Pratik,

that we 3 will plan out a successful rescue operation and make a planned and sincere efforts which we keep shelving that one day we will do for mom / wife/ elders and which never comes unless we start  deliberating and executing. .....

 I feel many more can  use this mail for analyzing and brightening their family and make it   happier together and not cribbing together.So Sharing with others as ......as no one tells you this except ........Alok

Clarification: There is nothing serious with her health, in family etc but i t is a time to get and give big Joy to each other my making little adjustment and fine tuning.Like to achieve targets VP marketing keeps boosting moral of his team similarly we the members of family have to keep boosting moral of other family members and friends. All these steps can reduce worries and stress resulting in better self esteem, better health. Try it and write back your experience in newer vistas.