Be happy before you can make some one happy

Can I give something which I don't have. So for sharing happiness I must have happiness. So first step is I must be happy. So I do everything which makes me happy.

By the way:
I  say, one must only do what makes one  feel happy and satisfied after doing that and feel no regret therafter.Post your action/ passing of the day you must feel it was just as smooth a flow as water flows in river.
If one feels he has done lot of obligation for doing family / common duties / work / routine then he does not enjoy that work so better one does not do that.Person doing work which makes him feel frustrated, which makes him feel remember and count the number of obligations he has done on others( family members, society, nation,clients,friends) etc means person needs lot of help and learning ( spiritualism) and is badly suffering. I say, till you achieve level of satisfaction and enjoyment it is perfectly in tune if you do not care for some people / some responsibilities,some  participation and sharing common goals. As what a hurt, weak, hungry can give??? So try to first get. And the day you feel your stomack/ coffers ( greed) are all full , the moment a realisation comes that enough is enough goodness will flow automatically from you as tea over flows from a cup when full.
Some other place I will take on size of your cup. For Kalmadi and alike it can be 10000 cr which is less and will be unhappy till he grabs more and more .For someothers  like Late B. L. Tholiyaji it may be anything above basic needs which is surplus and meant for giving and sharing.
So coming back to main topic of my mail: WE must speak to self : World goes on without I trying to be nice , without I trying to share responsibilities, without I contributing to family, society, world, without I having courtesy, even if I show my back, even if I take responsibilty and do not do, even if I just lecture and advise, and expect but do not do my bit. I shall and have never done anything where I feel that society compelled me to do this, I did this because some unseen culture/ system wanted me to do this way or that way. No I will not do that way. I will do only what gives me happiness and makes me feel satisfied. Because no unsatisfied soul can spread happiness. Frustrated person can only spread poison. First lookafterself and then only help others and be happy.
Thanks and Regards,
Alok Tholiya

when you age you too will be outdated ..love ur parents

An old man, staying in a small south Indian town came to visit his son in Bombay recently. The son in his early thirties is a successful businessman living with his wife and son. The father, having spent most of his life at his birthplace, hardly understands a splatter of Hindi or English, forget Marathi. But he doesn't care. 'I have come here to spend a few days with my son and his family. I don't have to go out and socialize with the city people,' he said.

But the son is very excited about his father's rare visit to Bombay. He wants to make the best of it. He and his wife want to show him around the city. And yes, the son enjoys those evening hours too, when he and his father go out and sit in a good bar, sipping their favourite drink.

Last week he was in a very good mood. 'Let's go to a five star hotel's bar tonight,' he told his father. It was a beautiful evening. Talking about everything under the sun they had a few drinks. As usual they were offered some salad, peanuts, wafers etc. .as accompaniments with their drinks. The old man being almost toothless was not much interested in eating. But that day when they got up to leave, he simply took a handful of chana (roasted grams) and stuffed it in the fold of his dhoti. He might have thought about munching on them, sitting in the car, or whatever.

Unfortunately while walking in the lobby, he missed a step and stumbled. Down he went, scattering the chana on the plush carpet.

No problem .Now try to visualize that scenario. Someone else in his son's place would have been mortified, embarrassed to death. He might have cursed not his father but his own self for causing this awkward situation.

'Never again will I take my old man to such hotels', he would have vowed.

No sir, not this son. Gently, with a smile, he helped his father get back on his feet. Instead of feeling irritated or angry, he was amused. He found the whole incident very funny. Laughing, they both went home and on the way they decided to return to the same place the following Sunday.

The old man liked the place and liked the chana too. Few days back, at a friend's place they both described this event and made everybody laugh.

Weren't you embarrassed? Somebody asked the son. 'Oh, come on now' replied the son. 'He is my father. He talks in his native language, prefers to wear a dhoti even to a posh city hotel, takes chana from the bar to eat later, does whatever he feels like.... So what?

Why should I feel embarrassed with his nature and habits? Nobody has a right to stop him from doing whatever he feels comfortable with, as long as it is not harmful to others.'

The son doesn't care what the staff in the hotel thought about that incident. He says 'they should be concerned only with their bills and tips. I am concerned about my father's happiness.' The wife too totally agrees with the husband on this issue. She feels there are enough other qualities in her father- in- law to feel proud of.

Accept them .The above incident is not mentioned just to show the love and devotion of a son for his father. More than love it is a matter of understanding and a healthy respect for the other person's lifestyle.

A seventy plus old man doesn't want to change his lifestyle now. He likes the way he eats or dresses or talks. In his eyes there is nothing wrong with the old ways of living. And the son says, ok, fine. Every body has a right to live as per his wish. Now at his age, why should he be forced to learn to eat with a fork and knife, if he doesn't want to? I will feel bad if he is doing something morally wrong or indulging in some harmful activities. But otherwise it is fine. I am not going to try to change him at this stage. He is my father. I love him, respect him.

Hey folks, can you think this way? So many times we see people getting embarrassed by the so called unsophisticated behaviour of their family members. They keep on apologizing about their lack of class and manners or about their drawbacks to outsiders. My wife can't speak proper English; she doesn't know what's happening in the world, so I avoid taking her out or introducing her to my friends and business associates... My parents can't eat with a spoon and fork, so I don't take them to restaurants My husband is working as an ordinary clerk, so I feel awkward when I introduce him to my rich friends. My brother is mentally challenged, so I don't feel like going out with him...

Are you plagued with such thoughts or do you meet such people who think alike? If you do, please ask yourself. Why do others or I feel this way? Really what is there to feel ashamed of? Most of the people always have this fear of other peoples' opinions and comments. What would others say?

Nothing.. You are what you are..

Too big huh?? But it's a brain drain... Think over it..

It is unbelievable, it is shocking but unfortunately true

Dr. Patanjali Jaydev Yogendra ( age 37 years)  beloved son of Smt
Hansaben and Shri Jaydevji  (CEO Yoga Institute)  untimely left for
his havenly abode due to a unfortunate car accident.
Prayer Sabha will be held on Friday, 27th July 2012 at Yoga Institute,
Prabahat Colony, Santacruz East @ 6pm.
He was heir apparent of a very great authentic century old Santacruz
Yoga Institute. This institute never claimed any miracle remedy / over
night cures for anything. Rather it never separated body from soul and
hence they taught lessons of yoga for mind, body and soul altogether
to make you perfect healthy person.
Whenever I had any case which needed counseling or  some one who had
health  issues etc I used to just refer them to Hansaji and LO! those
were all addressed. Just as an example Mr. Vijay Jain came to me to
buy urgently a health insurance. I smelled something. I insisted to
know what the reason of this sudden awareness was and self initiative
to have a health cover when he had evaded all such followups from me
earlier.He reluctantly replied that he has been diagnosed with
spondolysis. And Doc had suggested a major and expensive operation.
I suggested better he first sees Hansaben and took an appointment for
him and sent him to yoga institute of Santacruz East.  When I
contacted Mr Vijay after about two months he said he is much better
now and regularly going to yoga institute. He further added that he
has dropped the idea of operation and as well as of buying a health
policy.
This century old internationally acclaimed yoga institute must have
helped thousands of patients of heart, back, joint, etc etc. and given
them long and healthy life.Yoga institute has helped thousands of
disturbed persons and brought them out of their mental issues. I am
personally witness to so many couples who have been saved from falling
apart. Their disciples are from all over the world. They have trained
and produced thousands of yoga teachers who teach true yoga and not
any miracle yoga.Their karmathata / their dedication can be seen when
on one side preparation of last rites of Bhai Patanjali was on and on
other side all classes of Yoga Institute were on as usual without
announcing holiday.  I wonder if there is a god then how can he do
such a thing to a family who has contributed so much to mankind and to
all of us who are blessed by this family.
And Dr. Patanjali .. a silent, dedicated but genius in himself and
grandson of founder of this great institute. He was so different then
present times youth and so dedicated that we had a hope that he will
one day take over this institute and develop it leaps and bound.
But.....
There r no words to send condolence to bereaved family from all those
who know this great spiritual family. Family which has been working
untiringly for welfare of humanity. We are all dumbfounded. We are all
in state of shock.
All of us who feel close to this institute, who have been blessed by
Hansaji and Jaydevji know not how to express own grief and loss leave
aside trying to share their grief and sorrow. We can't. But we are all
sure that the parents of our beloved Guru bhai DR Patanjali, his
beloved wife and daughter are all spiritually as strong as rock and
will over come soon from this impossible to bear shock. Memory of
Dr.Patanjali  Jaydev will contine to show us path and will keep
shining in our heart as  light house for life time.
There is no two opinion that his place is in haven and will keep
shining like a star all our life.
We can promise the bereaved family one thing that we will remain
indebted to them forever and are available at one call 24x7x life when
called upon.
Alok Tholiya and all students of Yoga Institute of Santacruz.
atholiya@gmail.com
9324225699

“CARE and LOVE”

“A Wise Physician Said,

The Best Medicine For Humans Is

“CARE and LOVE”.

Someone Asked, If It doesn’t Work?

He Smiled and Answered:

“INCREASE THE DOSE”.

LIFE