Wednesday, April 28, 2010

conversation between a successful techi and a soldier........must read......Alok

Dear Chandraneel,
My hair were raising when i was reading this mail. Very true "EVERYONE U MEET IS FIGHTING A HARD BATTLE"!
But most think ( due to their success/ name /fame/ position) that others just waste and dirt and they r the next to almighty.
U righly said ...Be polite I add be considerate be generous in words while dealing with not so successful ( as they r still fighting their battle and deserve ur sympathy and encouragement) and never belittle them with mean words.
I m fwd this mail to others....
 
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Shatabdi Train ... [An Interesting Conversation (Really a must read)]

 

Vivek Pradhan was not a happy man.. Even the plush comfort of the air-conditioned compartment of the Shatabdi express could not cool his frayed nerves. He was the Project Manager and still not entitled to air travel. It was not the prestige he sought; he had tried to reason with the admin person, it was the savings in time. As PM, he had so many things to do!!

 

He opened his case and took out the laptop, determined to put the time to some good use.

'Are you from the software industry sir?' the man beside him was staring appreciatively at the laptop. Vivek glanced briefly and mumbled in affirmation, handling the laptop now with exaggerated care and importance as if it were an expensive car.

 

'You people have brought so much advancement to the country, Sir. Today everything is getting computerized.'

 

'Thanks,' smiled Vivek, turning around to give the man a look. He always found it difficult to resist appreciation. The man was young and stockily built like a sportsman... .. He looked simple and strangely out of place in that little lap of luxury like a small town boy in a prep school. He probably was a railway sportsman making the most of his free traveling pass.

 

'You people always amaze me,' the man continued, 'You sit in an office and write something on a computer and it does so many big things outside.'

 

Vivek smiled deprecatingly. Naiveness demanded reasoning not anger. 'It is not as simple as that my friend. It is not just a question of writing a few lines. There is a lot of process that goes behind it.'

 

For a moment, he was tempted to explain the entire Software Development Lifecycle but restrained himself to a single statement. 'It is complex, very complex.'

 

'It has to be. No wonder you people are so highly paid,' came the reply.

 

This was not turning out as Vivek had thought. A hint of belligerence crept into his so far affable, persuasive tone.

 

'Everyone just sees the money. No one sees the amount of hard work we have to put in. Indians have such a narrow concept of hard work. Just because we sit in an air-conditioned office, does not mean our brows do not sweat. You exercise the muscle; we exercise the mind and believe me that is no less taxing.'

 

He could see, he had the man where he wanted, and it was time to drive home the point.

 

'Let me give you an example. Take this train. The entire railway reservation system is computerized. You can book a train ticket between any two stations from any of the hundreds of computerized booking centers across the country.

 

Thousands of transactions accessing a single database, at a time concurrently; data integrity, locking, data security. Do you understand the complexity in designing and coding such a system?'

 

The man was awestruck; quite like a child at a planetarium. This was something big and beyond his imagination.

 

'You design and code such things?'

 

'I used to,' Vivek paused for effect, 'but now I am the Project Manager.'

 

'Oh!' sighed the man, as if the storm had passed over, 'so your life is easy now.'

 

This was like the last straw for Vivek. He retorted, 'Oh come on, does life ever get easy as you go up the ladder. Responsibility only brings more work. Design and coding! That is the easier part. Now I do not do it; but I am responsible for it and believe me, that is far more stressful. My job is to get the work done in time and with the highest quality.

 

To tell you about the pressures, there is the customer at one end, always changing his requirements, the user at the other, wanting something else, and your boss, always expecting you to have finished it yesterday.'

 

Vivek paused in his diatribe, his belligerence fading with self-realization. What he had said, was not merely the outburst of a wronged man, it was the truth. And one need not get angry while defending the truth.

 

'My friend,' he concluded triumphantly, 'you don't know what it is to be in the Line of Fire'.

The man sat back in his chair, his eyes closed as if in realization.

 

When he spoke after sometime, it was with a calm certainty that surprised Vivek.

 

'I know sir..... I know what it is to be in the Line of Fire......'

 

He was staring blankly, as if no passenger, no train existed, just a vast expanse of time. 'There were 30 of us when we were ordered to capture Point 4875 in the cover of the night. The enemy was firing from the top. There was no knowing where the next bullet was going to come from and for whom.

 

In the morning when we finally hoisted the tri-colour at the top only 4 of us were alive.'

 

'You are a...?'

 

'I am Subedar Sushant from the 13 J&K Rifles on duty at Peak 4875 in Kargil. They tell me I have completed my term and can opt for a soft assignment.

 

But, tell me sir, can one give up duty just because it makes life easier? On the dawn of that capture, one of my colleagues lay injured in the snow, open to enemy fire while we were hiding behind a bunker.

 

It was my job to go and fetch that soldier to safety. But my captain sahib refused me permission and went ahead himself.

 

He said that the first pledge he had taken as a Gentleman Cadet was to put the safety and welfare of the nation foremost followed by the safety and welfare of the men he commanded... ....his own personal safety came last, always and every time.'

 

'He was killed as he shielded and brought that injured soldier into the bunker.. Every morning thereafter, as we stood guard, I could see him taking all those bullets, which were actually meant for me. I know sir....I know, what it is to be in the Line of Fire.'

 

Vivek looked at him in disbelief not sure of how to respond. Abruptly, he switched off the laptop.

 

It seemed trivial, even insulting to edit a Word document in the presence of a man for whom valour and duty was a daily part of life; valour and sense of duty which he had so far attributed only to epical heroes.

 

The train slowed down as it pulled into the station, and Subedar Sushant picked up his bags to alight.

'It was nice meeting you sir.'

 

Vivek fumbled with the handshake.

 

This hand... had climbed mountains, pressed the trigger, and hoisted the tri-colour. Suddenly, as if by impulse, he stood up at attention and his right hand went up in an impromptu salute....

 

It was the least he felt he could do for the country.

 

PS: The incident he narrated during the capture of Peak 4875 is a true-life incident during the Kargil war. Capt. Batra sacrificed his life while trying to save one of the men he commanded, as victory was within sight.

 

For this and various other acts of bravery, he was awarded the Param Vir Chakra, the nation's highest military award.

 

 

BE POLITE…

EVERYONE U MEET IS FIGHTING A HARD BATTLE!


'There is always so much more towards life'

Without Wax,
Chandraneel.





Sunday, April 25, 2010

digest well these points...read slowly.. put in ur system

WAYS_TO REDUCE STRESS

An Angel says, "Never borrow from the future. If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and it doesn't happen, you have worried in vain. Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice."

1. Most important thing as you wake up  Meditate, Pray and simply have positive thoughts.

2. Go to bed on time.

3. Get up on time so you can start the day unrushed.

4. Say No to projects that won't fit into your time schedule, or that will compromise your mental health.

5. Delegate tasks to capable others.

6. Simplify and unclutter your life.

7. Less is more. (Although one is often not enough, two are often too many.)

8. Allow extra time to do things and to get to places.

9. Pace yourself. Spread out big changes and difficult projects over time; don't lump the hard things all together.

10. Take one day at a time

11. Separate worries from concerns. If a situation is a concern, find out what God would have you do and let go of the anxiety. If you can't do anything about a situation, forget it.

12. Live within your budget; don't use credit cards for ordinary purchases.

13. Have backups; an extra car key in your wallet, an extra house key buried in the garden, extra stamps, etc.

14. K.M.S. (Keep Mouth Shut). This single piece of advice c an prevent an enormous amount of trouble.
   

15. Do something for the Kid in You everyday.

16. Carry a
scripture with you to read while waiting in line.

17. Get enough rest.


18. Eat right.

19. Get organized so everything has its place.

20. Listen to a music/ spiritual discourses/ Osho while driving that can help improve your quality of life.

21. Write down thoughts and inspirations.

22. Every day, find time to be alone.

23. Having problems ? Talk to God on the spot. Try to nip small problems in the bud. Don't wait until it's time to go to bed to try and pray.

24. Make friends with Godly people.

25. Keep a folder of favorite scriptures on hand.

26. Remember that the shortest bridge between despair and hope is often a good "Thank you God."

27 Laugh.

28. Laugh some more!

29. Take your work seriously, but not yourself at all.

30. Develop a forgiving attitude (most people are doing the best they can).

31. Be kind to unkind people (they probably need it the most).

32. Sit on your ego.

33. Talk less; listen more.

34. Slow down.

35. Remind yourself that you are not the general manager of the universe.

36 . Every night before bed, think of one thing you're grateful for that you've never been grateful for before. GOD HAS A WAY OF TURNING THINGS AROUND FOR YOU. "If God is for us, who can be against us?" (Romans 8:31)

 
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Saturday, April 24, 2010

Don't give up..... must read.......Alok

Don't give up.....

One day I decided to quit...
I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality... I wanted to quit my life.

I went to the woods to have one last talk with God.

"God", I asked, "Can you give me one good reason not to quit?"

His answer surprised me...
"Look around", He said. "Do you see the fern and the bamboo?"

"Yes", I replied.
"When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them.

I gave them light.

I gave them water.
The fern quickly grew from the earth.

Its brilliant green covered the floor.

Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo.
In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful.
And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo. He said.
"In year three and four there was still nothing from the bamboo seed.

But I would not quit.

"Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant...But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall.

It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive.
I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle."

He asked me. "Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots".


"I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you." "Don't compare yourself to others." He said.


"The bamboo had a different Purpose than the fern.

Yet they both make the forest beautiful."
"Your time will come", God said to me.

"You will rise high"
"How high should I rise?"

I asked.
"How high will the bamboo rise?" He asked in return.
"As high as it can?" I questioned.
"Yes." He said, "Give me glory by rising as high as you can."
I left the forest and brought back this story.
I hope these words can help you see that God will never give up on you.
Never, Never, Never Give up.
For Prayer is not a
n Option but an Opportunity.
Don't tell the Lord how big the problem is,
tell the problem how Great the Lord is!


 
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Wednesday, April 21, 2010

R u in 7% or 93%

 

 

 A Swami was having a conversation
with Lord Shiva one day and said.

'Lord, I would like to know what
Heaven and Hell are like.


Lord Shiva led the Swami to two
doors.


He opened one of the doors and the
Swami looked in. In the middle of
the room was a large round table. In
the middle of the table was a large pot
of stew, which smelled delicious and
made the Swami's mouth water.
The people sitting! around the table
were thin and sickly. They appeared to
be famished. They were holding
spoons with very long handles that
were strapped to their arms and each
found it possible to reach into the pot
of stew and take a spoonful.

But because the handle was longer
than their arms, they could not get the
spoons back into their mouths.

The Swami shuddered at the sight
of their misery and suffering.

Lord Shiva said, 'You have seen Hell.


They went to the next room and
opened the door. It was exactly the
same as the first one. There was the
large round table with the large pot of
stew which made the holy man's mouth
water. The people were equipped with
the same long-handled spoons, but here >the people were well nourished and
plump, laughing and talking. The Swami
said, 'I don't understand.'

'It is simple,' said Lord Shiva.

'It requires but one skill. You see
they have learned to feed each
other, while the greedy think only
of themselves.'

When Lord Shiva created the world, He was
thinking of you. It's estimated 93%
won't forward this. If you are one of
the 7% who will, forward this with the
title '7%'.

I'm in the 7%

Remember that I will always share
my spoon with you !





 



 

  
  

 

 

 


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Tuesday, April 6, 2010

The more conscious you are, the less reactive you are.


 



Tendencies react to different situations. Your likes and dislikes are not just in your head; the whole body reacts. Isn't it? The more deeply you are embedded in your karma, the more deeply your body reacts. As your karma becomes lighter, your reactions become lighter.

Your whole life and existence is moving more from unconsciousness to consciousness. That's why your reactions are becoming less. The more unconscious you are, the more reactive you are. The more conscious you are, the less reactive you are.




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Monday, April 5, 2010

PATIENCE AND PERSEVERANCE= GREATNESS and SUCCESS

NO SUCCESS, EITHER IN THE MATERIAL WORLD OR IN THE

SPIRITUAL PATH, IS POSSIBLE WITHOUT PATIENCE AND

PERSEVERANCE. DIFFICULTIES DO CROP IN AT EVERY

STAGE, AND THESE ARE TO BE OVERCOME BY PATIENT

EFFORTS AND PERSEVERANCE. ALL GREAT PERSONS

OF THE WORLD HAVE ACHIEVED GREATNESS, SUCCESS

AND EMINENCE THROUGH PATIENCE AND PERSEVERANCE.

(Swami Sivananda)


 
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Sunday, April 4, 2010

way to punish children or it is a way to really mould them right........parents pl. read


 

 

 

Excellent Article – Must Read

Reading Time – 2 Minutes
Value - Priceless
Dr. Arun Gandhi, grandson of Mahatma Gandhi and founder of the M.K. Gandhi Institute for Non-violence, in his June 9 lecture at the University of Puerto Rico, shared the following story as an example of "non-violence in parenting":

"I was 16 years old and living with my parents at the institute my grandfather had founded 18 miles outside of Durban , South Africa , in the middle of the sugar plantations. We were deep in the country and had no neighbors, so my two sisters and I would always look forward to going to town to visit friends or go to the movies.

One day, my father asked me to drive him to town for an all-day conference, and I jumped at the chance. Since I was going to town, my mother gave me a list of groceries she needed and, since I had all day in town, my father ask me to take care of several pending chores, such as getting the car serviced. When I dropped my father off that morning, he said, ' I will meet you here at 5:00 p.m. , and we will go home together. '

After hurriedly completing my chores, I went straight to the nearest movie theatre. I got so engrossed in a John Wayne double-feature that I forgot the time. It was 5:30 before I remembered. By the time I ran to the garage and got the car and hurried to where my father was waiting for me, it was almost 6:00.

He anxiously asked me, ' Why were you late? 'I was so ashamed of telling him I was watching a John Wayne western movie that I said, ' The car wasn't ready, so I had to wait, not realizing that he had already called the garage. When he caught me in the lie, he said: ' There's something wrong in the way I brought you up that didn't' give you the confidence to tell me the truth. In order to figure out where I went wrong with you, I'm going to walk home 18 miles and think about it. '

So, dressed in his suit and dress shoes, he began to walk home in the dark on mostly unpaved, unlit roads. I couldn't leave him, so for five-and-a-half hours I drove behind him, watching my father go through this agony for a stupid lie that I uttered. I decided then and there that I was never going to lie again.

I often think about that episode and wonder, if he had punished me the way we punish our children, whether I would have learned a lesson at all. I don't think so. I would have suffered the punishment and gone on doing the same thing. But this single non-violent action was so powerful that it is still as if it happened yesterday.

"That is the power of non-violence."

"Forgiveness is giving up my right to hate anyone for hurting me."


 


 

 



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Two Important Qualities u shud have




 




1st year students of MBBS were attending their 1st anatomy class.
They all gathered around the surgery table with a real dead dog.
The Professor started class by telling two important qualities as a Doctor.
The 1st is that NEVER BE DISGUSTED FOR ANYTHING ABOUT A BODY,
e.g. He inserted his finger in dog's mouth & on drawing back tasted it in his own mouth.

Then he said them to do the same.
The students hesitated for several minutes.
But eventually everyone inserted their fingers in dog's mouth & then tasted it.

When everyone finished, the Professor looked at them and said:
The most important 2nd quality is OBSERVATION, I inserted my Middle finger but tasted the Index finger.
Now learn to pay attention.

Moral:

Life is tough but it's a lot tougher when you are not paying attention

 



 



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