LOVE & LIFE

Alok adds: This happened 20 yrs back and true. My wife once said in the dead of midnight that I want to have samosa. I did not get it. She thinks I dont love her. And I did not know to write such a good letter to her. Read on: Dear All This is beautiful..............please read it. My husband is S/W Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders. Two years of courtship and now, five years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness. I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings. I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband is my complete opposite; his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about LOVE. One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce. "Why? " he asked, shocked. "I am tired. There are no reasons for everything in the world!" I answered. He kept silent the whole night, seemingly in deep thought. My feeling of disappointment only increased. Here was a man who was not able to even express his predicament, so what else could I expect from him? And finally he asked me: "What can I do to change your mind?" Somebody said it right... It's hard to change a person's personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him. Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: "Here is the question. If you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind. Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death. Will you do it for me?" He said: " I will give you your answer tomorrow...." My hopes just sank by listening to his response. I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes.... My dear, "I would not pick that flower for you, but....please allow me to explain the reasons further..... This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading. "When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs. You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you. You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city. I have to save my eyes to show you the way. You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend" approaches every month. I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy. You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom. You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes. I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand...and tell you the colour of flowers, just like the colour of the glow on your young face... Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do... I could not pick that flower yet, and die ... " My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting... And as I continue on reading... "Now, that you have finished reading my answer, and if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk... I rushed to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread....Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone... That's LIFE, and LOVE. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness. Love shows up in all forms; even in very small and cheeky forms. It has never been a model. It could be the dullest and most boring form ... Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands... AND THAT'S LIFE...

W h y G o s s i p ?? (With a twist)

Next time someone starts to spread gossip, think of this:   In ancient Greece (469 - 399 BC), Socrates was widely lauded for his wisdom.   One day the great philosopher came upon an acquaintance who ran up to him excitedly and said, "Socrates, do you know what I just heard about one of your students?"   Wait a moment," Socrates replied. "Before you tell me I'd like you to pass a little test.It's called the Triple Filter Test."   "Triple filter?"   "That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my student let's take a moment to filter what you're going to say. The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"   "No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and..."   "All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my student something good?"   "No, on the contrary..."   "So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him, even though you're not certain it's true?"   The man shrugged, a little embarrassed.   Socrates continued. "You may still pass the test though,because there is a  third filter - the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my student going to be useful to me?"   "No, not really..."   "Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither True nor Good nor even Useful! Why tell it to me at all?"   The man was defeated and ashamed.   This is the reason Socrates was a great philosopher and held in such high esteem.    It also explains why he never found out that Plato (his student) was having an affair with his wife.   Moral: It's good to gossip sometimes!!!... :-)

Re: An open letter to The Prime Minister by PPI and views of Alok

Nakkarkhane main tuti ki Avaz

 

Most common things cant be seen by even most intelligent. Common sense is most uncommon.

I dont expect any punishment to any one from bofors to CWG. For even being honest as far as possible I had to pay bribe on most occassion just to save myself from harrassment, Though if I lost bigger amount then I preffered not to pay and happily forgo refunds.

 

Corruption is deep rooted.

 

It is voters who r corrupt. They dont want to vote for honest, known hard working where as dishonest gets all the support from vested interests , communals, criminals. And they win. Finally we get rulers we deserve.

 

Elections r coming. Ruling party must be interested in 10000 cr. +.And LO! And they found  CWG as one avenue . Kalmadi  must be interested in floating his own party , wanting his own people in large nos in various positions. So to achieve all that he needs money. CWG is the awnser. Raj, Rane , Chagan, Pawar, Uma bharti etc etc floated their pwn party when they had 1000 cr +.

One invests in politics like others do in stock market. Then want to get fat return to become bigger shark, so we see all sharks.

 

The political system and citizens are to be blamed as election fray needs money money and money alone ( no competence, no eduaction, no honesty, no track records work).

 

We will continue to see such scams till we can change electioneering ? Who can bell the cat ?? All parties ( with chances to rule) are in deep corruption.They wont change system. May be another Sheshan, Supreme court or slavery is the awnswer. And as such in 12 to 25 yrs India will be slave of Islamic and Chinese nexus. That time u will not expect any thing and be a honest citizen.
 

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From: Professionals Party of India <news@ppi.net.in>
To: "tholiya@yahoo.com" <tholiya@yahoo.com>
Sent: Mon, 27 September, 2010 12:55:28 PM
Subject: An open letter to The Prime Minister

Dear Prime Minister,

 

As per news reports, the extraordinary bungling and corruption in your government�s organizing of the Commonwealth Games has brought us nothing but shame and humiliation, after having squandered away our nation�s hard earned Rs 70,000 crores. 

 

What is more, there is serious concern about the widespread impression your government may have given, that your government�s ineptness represents the capabilities and competence of the people of India to manage a large project. 

 

Nothing could be further from the truth, and believe me, we will do everything in our power to correct this impression, because this false impression about our great nation will hurt us and our next generation too.

 

Let it be clearly understood that the systematic mismanagement of the prestigious games represents the dismal capability of the politicians in your government who you put in charge, and it does not at all reflect the capabilities of the people of India . 

 

India comprises people of very high caliber and competence.  India comprises of world renowned engineers, administrators and planners.  A large section of highly qualified Indians undertake projects of mammoth magnitudes in India and all over the world and are widely applauded for their successful completion, often ahead of schedule and within budgets.  Indians are at the forefront of global capabilities in every sphere of industry and project management.

 

It is clearly a severely flawed electoral system that allows characterless criminals, crooks and incompetents to get elected and then form a government of them to systematically splurge and squander national wealth without any accountability.

 

So what is the solution now?  The solution lies with you as the head of the government. 

 

You are widely considered a man of integrity.  To live up to that image, you must now publicly resolve and take severe action against all acts of corruption and bring back to the national exchequer every rupee of the Rs 70,000 crores that has been stolen away through corruption or mismanagement.  Thereafter, apply all the pressure your office can bring to bear on electoral reforms so that (i) criminals cannot contest elections, (ii) any kind of bribing of voters instantly disqualifies the candidate concerned, and (iii) the option of �None of the above� as per Rule 49(O) is prominently provided on the ballot during the next elections.

 

In conclusion may we reiterate, the scale of reported looting in organizing the Games virtually amounts to treason against the state.  This is something you may like to address to clear your government�s name in the long term.

 

Best wishes,

 

 

Professionals Party of India

www.ppi.net.in

Pune

 

September 27, 2010

 

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Forgiveness/ Kshamavani - A Real Stress Buster....so I too seek forgiveness

Today on Ekadashi Jains will say Michami Dukkdam to all even enemies, those distant, those who have broken relations. Here is why:

 

Sangharsh of thoughts: Should I or should I not forgive & seek pardon.


Subject: Forgiveness/ Kshamavani - A Real Stress Buster


The most humorous thing about forgiveness is that when people forgive someone,
they think they are doing him a favor. Wake up. It's you that is receiving the
biggest favor. Let me explain: Do you know science has already proven that
harbored resentments, hate, hurt, guilt, etc., cause a depletion in your own
system, often leading to disease and self-anguish. It would frighten people to
know how much their pent-up angers and resentments, guilt are depleting their
systems, causing them the lack of peace they blame others for creating. If you
want peace, fun and zest for living, you have to learn to maintain your mental
and emotional nature the same as a doctor helps to maintain your physical. There
are many tools for doing that but forgiveness is the only tool available always
& free.


For those non-Jains, let's not perceive forgiveness & or begging a pardon as
something just religious or spiritual. Look at it in a business sense - smart
business. In an act of forgiveness it's you that especially come out good
because you release that disease-producing energy from your system. These
energies produce hormones that toxify your mental, emotional and physical
system. Forgiveness is just a process of re-balancing your internal energy
distortions to recreate a harmonious flow between yourself and others. The trick
is you have to forgive from the "heart". A common mistake is when people try to
forgive from the "head", then find that the same resentments keep popping up
over and over again. People think they have forgiven others and realize later
that they resent even more. It doesn't mean that you are bad when this happens,
it's just a matter of learning more about your system and, especially, the
difference between the heart and the head. The heart forgives; the head makes
empty promises that do not reach completion. Completion is seriously important
because if you leave a crack in the door, negative thoughts and emotions can
blow it off the hinges. Heart intelligence clearly helps you to understand that
forgiveness and seeking pardon are especially for your own mental and emotional
maintenance.


One would persue anything for own benefit. I'm not implying that forgiveness
doesn't benefit the other person but you are the primary beneficiary when you
forgive someone. And if you realize this then you will have more incentive to
complete the act of forgiveness at the heart level & this will benefit the other
person too as it causes relief in other person too who is most often your own
near & dear one. Then, everyone wins! It's okay to forgive someone for
self-benefits because you have to love and respect your own energies before you
are truly effective in facilitating someone else's needs. The prime message is
that forgiveness is not some little churchy act you put on to do someone else a
favor. It's both parties that receive an increase in their energy bank account.


Forgiving and forgetting the old hurts and hate & guilt from your system is like
taking a mental and emotional Ganga bath. You bath regularly your body but
forget to bath soul/conscience & store negative toxic junk in your mental and
emotional psyche for years without a clean up. Trust me, it taxes your system.
It's really the mental and emotional bath you need daily. That's where your
happiness and quality of life are registered.


Yet another humorous situation is that while you are still poisoning your own
system & doing damage to yourself the people you hate or resent don't even know
about it. It's especially you that you are punishing. Again, I'm not talking
religion, I am not talking Jainism I'm talking business - the business of your
own self-health - "streetsense!" It's about preventative maintenance that can
keep the doctor bills down and keep your happiness and fun up. Be careful of
falling in the trap of justified hate because it's really you that's taking the
lashing. If it sounds like I'm overly intent on this one point, it may be you
that needs to hear it one more time so that you might just hear it for the first
time.

Once you really hear it from the heart, here is how you can do yourself a favor,
a big one: List all the people, organizations, issues or anything you hold hate
and resentments against. Then make a serious effort from the heart to release
those negative frequencies from your system and replace it with heart
intelligence. Heart intelligence would ask you, why drain your life and junk up
your system just because someone else is out to phase out his own life? It may
be hard for you to put out love for someone who has offended you but you can
sure "smarten up" and at least release yourself from the negative feedback loop
created when resenting others and yourself. Forgiveness is a featured aspect of
self-management, yet self-management is not featured in most people's day-to-day
agenda. I'm well aware that some situations are deeply rooted with hurt and pain
caused by others. Still for the sake of your own health and the people around
you, it's worth going deeper in the heart and finally releasing that negative
junk. I know this would sound disgusting but there is no more choice. Of course
in some cases you can create an environment & sit down & tell the other person
that you justifiably feel hurt & that he should desist in mutual benefit from
repeating the mistake. However the trick is not to expect him to change but
definitely give him one fair chance to improve by pardoning once. If this
content sparks any "make-sense" within you and you decide to consider forgiving
more and suffering less, then do it from the heart! The heart is where you will
tap the power of care. It's the care that is missing in people's efforts of good
intentions. Care is love in different degrees and potencies. Turn on the shower
in your heart and rain love. Send heart and love energy into the world if you
really want to play an effective part in cleaning up the planetary stress-mess.


Last but not least don't forget self-forgiveness as self-punishment defies
intelligence and especially common sense. Your heart truth would know that
self-punishment can cause more harm to you than the wrong you did. Forget
self-punishment, pick up the pieces, forgive yourself and move on from there.
However very critical point to be noted hear is that you should not repeat such
serious mistakes which caused you feel so much guilty otherwise there is no use
of forgiveness.


Self-forgiveness followed by strict self restraint, discipline, caution,
vigilance brings your mental and emotional energy systems back into balance or
else either you fall sick with guilt biting you from within every minute of the
day or you become shameless hardcore criminal / offender doing the same
offending act again & again. Do yourself favor folks, ease up on yourself. If
you have something eating on you inside, then talk it out, work it out, release
it & improve & change yourself. Just get it out because it's like an energy
vampire guaranteed to drain daily a percentage of your life's enjoyment
potentials.


Forgiveness has been around for quite awhile & some have been practicing too.
However, you can know it in your "head" for years but the knowledge doesn't turn
into wisdom until you have heard and applied it from the heart. Play with it for
awhile and you can secretly realize that much of the stress you have been
experiencing could have easily been avoided. It was just a matter of listening
to and following what you already know. It's actually fun to start experiencing
the power of your own self-management that leads to self-empowerment as you are
then more refined, more alive, more spotless, more attuned & great listener of
your heart. The true kshmavani can brighten up your life even more than a smile.
Why? Because many times smiles are used to cover up what's not cleaned up.


So go ahead, all out give up what suffocates you & your life & forgive & forget
self & others. Have fun with it.


So here, I offer hardik kshama( Pardon) to all & expect the same from you the lion
hearted,


Compiled by Alok Tholiya

N.B.: Person repeating mistake consciously does not deserve any forgiveness &
should be dealt with suitably.

 

'Life is But how to dance in the rain.' .......

PL READ TILL THE LAST

Rain

It was a busy
morning, about 8:30, when an elderly gentleman, probably in his 80s, arrived to have
stitches removed from his thumb. He said he was in a hurry as he had an
appointment at 9:00 am.

I took his vital
signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone
would to able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I
was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound. On exam, it was
well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to
remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of
his wound, I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as
he was in such a hurry.

The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to
the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife. I inquired as to her health.

He told me that she had been there
for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer's Disease.

As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late.

He replied that she no longer knew who he was,

that she had not recognized him in five years now.

I was surprised, and asked him, 'And you still go every
morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?'

He smiled as he patted my hand and said,

'She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is.'

I had to hold back
tears as he left, I had goose bumps on my arm, and thought,

'That is the kind of love I want in my life.'

True love is neither physical, nor romantic.

True love is an
acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.

With all the jokes
and fun that are in e-mails, sometimes there is one that comes along that has an
important message.. This one I thought I could share with you.

The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything;

they just make the best of everything they have.

I hope you share this with someone you care about. I just did.

'Life isn't about how to survive the storm,
But how to dance in the rain.'
 

Every one is getting Older

make  the  best  of  your  LIFE.

UTTAM TYAG: THE 8TH DAY PREACHINGS IN JAIN TEMPLE

8TH LESSON : UTTAM TYAG

 

Means renunciation- to give fourfold charities :

1. Food / Ahar Daan
2. Fearlessness / Abhay daan
3. medicine/ Aushadh daan
4. Education / Shastra Daan / Vidhya daan

And it is because of this inspite of lowest population of Jains( les then .5 % In India itself then at world level it may be miniscule)  they do high charities and one can easily find schools, hospitals, colleges, water huts  etc run by Jain philentrophists and institutions.

 

may those religions teaching use of weapons / stocking them may rather use their energy in creating schools and hospitals for their own poor and downtroden and use own communities wealth and energy in uplifting deprived rather inciting them.

                                                                 
 

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yesterday was 7th day of Paryushan parv ( Digambar Jain Festival ) and the discorse was focusd on : UTTAM TAPA ( BEST IS PENANCE)

7th LESSON:     UTTAM TAPA

 

Many will ask / challenge why trouble our soul and body with Tapa.

read my blog: http://beautifulwe.blogspot.com/2010/08/do-not-get-trapped-in-sinking-sand-dal.html

 

So life can change any minute and that time your will power, your inner strength, your capacity to with stand the biggest shocks can only save you ( from depression, heart attack etc) . And same can achieved by only tapa which makes you a stronger and better self.

 

So, Tapa / penance teaches you to surmount hardships and difficulties cheerfully.It can be practised either using external or internal austerities.
 

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4th day lesson of Paryushan Parv

Lesson 4: UTTAM SHAUCH. It's all about contentment & being happy with what one has in life. Let's be pure ,non-greedy ,satisfied and detached from worldly pleasures.

 

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3rd day of Digambar Jain Paryushan Parv and its lesson

Lesson 3 : UTTAM ARAJAV

 

There should exist a coherence between word and deed.Honesty is the sheet anchor for leading an ideal life.One should be conscious regarding the heinous elements.
 

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3rd day of Digambar Jain Paryushan Parv and its lesson

Lesson 3 : UTTAM ARAJAV

 

There should exist a coherence between word and deed.Honesty is the sheet anchor for leading an ideal life.One should be conscious regarding the heinous elements.
 

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Nothing is permanent in this world, not even our troubles. . . . !

Charlie Chaplin's 3 Heart touching Statements

Nothing is permanent in this world, not even our troubles. . . . !

The most wasted day in life, the day in which, we have not laughed…!

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I like walking in the rain, becoz nobody can see my tears…!

2nd day of Paryusahn ( 13th Sep)

2nd days Lesson: Uttam Mardav

Practice modesty and humility. Be humble & stay away from being proud ( prouder). Remember, all soul are equal ( be it any cast, creed, language, area, color etc) and have the potential to achieve Moksha ( ultimate peace ).Respect others and treat them as equal.

 

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Jain festival Das Lakshan Parv: day 1 on 13th Sep

 

Every festival has some purpose. May be most forget the purpose behind the festival. As days pass Jains too get diluted in this sinful world.

However there is a festival known as Das Lakshan Parv or Paryushan. Whose objective is just opposite of what we see in other festivals. It is not for celebrations, not for seeking blessings, not for asking favors from god (rather Jainism says god does not give or take anything) (what you get / face is due to your Karma) (so there is no way you can blame others for your present as same is based on your past) , not for eating and distributing Prasad, not for new clothes, refurbishing your house or office. It is purely for understanding science of life.

Every year Jain saints, teacher, pundits emphatically try to awaken the Jains in their discourses during these 10 days. Each day stands for a particular dharma (highest human order). And incidentally person from any religion can continue to follow his religion and yet be a better Jain then those by birth if they can follow these dictums as taught during these day. 

I hereby give in few words the name and meaning of the first day DHARMA:

DAY 1:

Today is UTTAM KSHAMA (Best is forgiveness):

Supreme is forgiveness, observe tolerance and shun anger. Forgiving is the essence of spirituality. It prepares us for our ultimate liberation.

 

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Alok Tholiya (S.E.O) M:9324225699

life is about to take off dont loose patience......Alok

"An arrow can be sent forward only by pulling it back. So when life is pulling you backwards, it means it's going to launch you to a victory!" "Hold on to what you want, as well as believe in."

why respect your family, neighbours, ..and why go to temple???? cause u dont wont to die as rotten fish near whom no ones come..

 

There r many ( people living in unrealistic world)  who just spend time with TV, movie, friends  who r spiritually in minus and become a psychic case as there mental development stops rather becomes retarded and they r just lustful, funful, career minded but can not remain ethical, trustworthy,faithful,dependable as their character is weak. Even those who visit temple everyday does not mean they r spiritually alive, enlightened. It may be that they r going to temple only as beggar to seek alms ( god give me this or that) , to wash their sins ( they live in fools paradise as they think they can do what they like outside and come inside of temple and god will pardon them. So go to temple to make you strong in character, moral, spirit, ethics etc. and make collection of good Karma's ( but many spend time and money in collection of good shirts or sarees).

And what happens to those who r not so, in detail some other time but I have seen in lodging house run by my grandfather that there were people who came from distant places to Mumbai, made friends for fun and frolic, lived in style and they were so surrounded with glamour that they cut off from family and dependable friends and finally when long sickness, poverty struck them then no friends , relatives visited. They were doing all their potty urine on bed had nothing to eat ( Parveen Bobby, many other celebrities  story is similar) , no one to take care. But occssionally some spiritually alive would come and help from neighbourhood and social workers.And not so spiritually alive who left them in distress came to collect their belonings when they died ( many claimants have cropped up when Parveen Bobby died alone in her flat unnoticed and uncared for long and case is on to claim every penny she left).So one may be surrounded with fans when it is your time ( which is always limited) but being not in  committed relationship the same fans leave you like bird leaves a sinking ship. So for realistic life listen to Tarun sagarji, Vidhyanandji, Osho, and many other good saints like Kabir etc, listen to kadva / bitter friends and live life simple , meaningful and truthfdul. High order but achieveable.

 

 

 

Why go to the Temple???


 

DEAR ALL, MAY GOD BLESS  EACH & EVERYONE, LOVE & BLESSINGS  
 

If you're spiritually alive, you're going to love this!
If you're spiritually dead, you won't want to read it.
If you're spiritually curious, there is still hope!  

Why Go To The Temple ?

A 'devotee' wrote a letter to the editor of an indian newspaper and complained that it made no sense to go to the Temple . 'I've gone for 30 years now, he wrote, and in that time I have heard something like 3,000 mantras.

But for the life of me, I can't remember a single one of them. So, I think I'm wasting my time and the Gurus are wasting theirs by giving services at all.

This started a real controversy in the 'Letters to the Editor' column, much to the delight of the editor. It went on for weeks until someone wrote this clincher: I've been married for 30 years now. In that time my wife has cooked some 32,000 meals.
 
But, for the life of me, I cannot recall the entire menu for a single one of those meals. But I do know this... They all nourished me and gave me the strength I needed to do my work.
 
If my wife had not given me these meals, I would be physically dead today. Likewise, if I had not gone to the Temple for nourishment, I would be spiritually dead today!

When you are DOWN to nothing.... God is UP to something! Faith sees the invisible, believes the incredible and receives the impossible!

Thank God for our physical AND our spiritual nourishment! All right, now that you're done reading, send it on!!! I think everyone should read this!! 'When Satan is knocking at your door, simply say,

'God , could you get that for me?!!' 
 

Thanks and Regards,
Alok Tholiya (S.E.O) M:9324225699

story of an old man...........! Knowing where to tap is imp...

A giant ship engine failed. The ship's owners tried one expert after another, but none of them could figure but how to fix the engine. Then they brought in an old man who had been fixing ships since he was a young. He carried a large bag of tools with him, and when he arrived, he immediately went to work. He inspected the engine very carefully, top to bottom. Two of the ship's owners were there, watching this man, hoping he would know what to do. After looking things over, the old man reached into his bag and pulled out a small hammer. He gently tapped something. Instantly, the engine lurched into life. He carefully put his hammer away. The engine was fixed! A week later, the owners received a bill from the old man for ten thousand dollars. "What?!" the owners exclaimed. "He hardly did anything!" So they wrote the old man a note saying, "Please send us an itemized bill." The man sent a bill that read: Tapping with a hammer...... ......... ........ $ 2.00 Knowing where to tap.......... ......... ...... $ 9, 998.00 Effort is important, but knowing where to make an effort makes all the difference!

REACTION VS RESPONSE

 

Once you become comfortable with cockroach then your response changes. So become comfortable with all includes all is even bad people around you.  Similarly become comfortable will life with all its mighty good,bad and ugly changes and surprises.

 

 

REACTION VS RESPONSE

Suddenly, a cockroach flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. I wondered if this was the cockroaches response to all the glory that was spoken about it!

She started screaming out of fear. With panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach. Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group got cranky to what was happening. The lady finally managed to push the cockroach to another lady in the group.

Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama. The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter. The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behaviour of the cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough, he grabbed and threw it out with his fingers.

Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behaviour? If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed? He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.

It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.

I realised even in my case then, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss that disturbs me, but its my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me. Its not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me. More than the problem, its my reaction to the problem that hurts me.

The Take-Away : The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.

We should not react in life, we should always respond. Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always intellectual.

one's veiws for life

 
 

POINTS ON HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE Personality: 1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about. 2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment 3. Don't over do; keep your limits 4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does 8. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness. 10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present 11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you 12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime. 13. Smile and laugh more 14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree. 16. Each day give something good to others 17. Forgive everyone for everything 18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6 19. Try to make at least three people smile each day 20. What other people think of you is none of your business 21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch. 22. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.  27. The best is yet to come

EIGHT CLUES TO HAPPINESS

One on the  most convincing pieces on  happiness. The  rationale applied to each preference is absolutely top  class.

EIGHT CLUES TO  HAPPINESS
By- KHUSHWANT SINGH

Having lived a  reasonably contented life, I was musing over what a person should strive  for to achieve happiness. I drew up a list of a few essentials which I  put forward for the readers' appraisal.

1. First and foremost is  GOOD  HEALTH. If you do not enjoy  good health you can never be happy. Any ailment, however trivial, will  deduct from your happiness.  

2.  Second, A HEALTHY BANK  BALANCE. It need not run into  crores but should be enough to provide for creature comforts and  something to spare for recreation, like eating out, going to the  pictures, travelling or going on holidays on the hills or by the sea.  Shortage of money can be only demoralizing. Living on credit or  borrowing is demeaning and lowers one in one's own  eyes.  

3. Third, A HOME OF YOUR  OWN. Rented premises can  never give you the snug feeling of a nest which is yours for keeps that  a home provides: if it has a garden space, all the better. Plant your  own trees and flowers, see them grow and blossom, cultivate a sense of  kinship with them.  

4. Fourth, AN UNDERSTANDING  COMPANION, be it your spouse or  a friend. If there are too many misunderstandings, they will rob you of  your peace of mind. It is better to be divorced than to bicker all  the time.  

5. Fifth, LACK OF ENVY towards  those who have done better than you in life; risen higher, made more  money, or earned more fame. Envy can be very corroding; avoid comparing  yourself with others.  

6. Sixth, DO NOT ALLOW OTHER  PEOPLE to descend on you for  gup-shup. By the time you get rid of them, you will feel exhausted and  poisoned by their gossip-mongering.
  
7. Seventh,  CULTIVATE  SOME HOBBIES which can bring you a  sense of fulfilment, such as gardening, reading, writing, painting,  playing or listening to music. Going to clubs or parties to get free  drinks or to meet celebrities is criminal waste of  time.  

8. Eighth, every morning and evening, devote 15  minutes to  INTROSPECTION. In the morning, 10  minutes should be spent on stilling the mind and then five in listing  things you have to do that day. In the evening, five minutes to still  the mind again, and ten to go over what you had undertaken to  do.  

RICHNESS is not Earning  More, Spending More  Or Saving  More, but ...   

"RICHNESS IS WHEN YOU  NEED NO MORE" 

 

 

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Die once before dying actually and realise the imporatnce of loving, spouse, children , friends ......

 

Samadhi Maran is a really great thing to achieve, you can find out the value of it by just seeing this beautiful story. 
   

 

Think about it... It's another morning......... Again I have to go to the office. Ohh!! this is me... I shouted, having a glance at my 'photo' in today's news paper. But what the HELL is it doing in the death column?? Strange... One second.......Let me think, last night when I was going to bed I had a severe pain in my chest, but I don't remember anything after that, I think I had a sound sleep. It's morning now, ohh....... It's already 10:00 AM, where is my coffee? I will be late for office and my boss will get a chance to irritate me.. Where is everyone...??? I screamed. "I think there is a crowd outside my room, let me check." I said to myself. So many people..... Not all of them crying...... But why are some of them crying.... WHAT IS THIS??? I'm lying there on the floor... "I AM HERE" ....... I shouted!!! No one is listening. "LOOK I AM NOT DEAD" .... I screamed once again!! No one is interested in me. They all were looking at me on the bed. I went back to my bed room. "Am I dead??" I asked myself... Where is my wife, my children, my Mom, my Dad, my friends? I found them in the next room, all of them were crying...still trying to console each other. My wife was crying... she was really looking sad. My little kid was not sure what happened, but he was crying just because his Mom was sad.. How can I go without saying to my kid that I really love him, I really do care for him. ?? How can I go without saying to my wife that she is really the most beautiful and most caring wife in this world..?? How can I go without saying to my parents that I'm what I am ... just because of you?? How can I go without telling my friends that without them perhaps I would have done most of the wrong things in my life... thanks for being there always when I need them...and sorry for not being there when they really need me.. I can see a person standing in the corner and trying to hide his tears.... Oh.... he was once my best friend, but a small misunderstanding made us part, and we both have a strong enough ego to keep us disconnected. I went there..... And offered him my hand, "Dear friend.... I just want to say sorry for everything, we are still best friends, please forgive me." No response from other side, what the hell?? He is still preserving his ego, I am saying sorry... even then!!! I really don't care for such people. But one second...... It seems he is not able to see me!!!! He did not see my extended hand. My goodness...... AM I REALLY DEAD??? I just sat down near ME; I was also feeling like crying... "OH ALMIGHTY!!!! PLEASE JUST GIVE ME FEW MORE DAYS..." I just want to make my wife, my parents; my friends realize how much I love them..... My wife entered the room, she looks beautiful. "YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL" I shouted. She didn't hear my words, in fact she never heard these words because I never said this to her. "GOD!!!!" I screamed... a little more timeplzzzzz... I cried... One more chance please... to hug my child, to make my mom smile just once, to feel my dad proud of me at least for a moment, to say sorry to my friends for everything I have not given to them, and thanks for still being in my life.... Then I looked up and cried!! I shouted....... "GOD!!!! ONE MORE CHANCE PLEASE!!!!" "You shouted in your sleep," said my wife as she gently woke me up. "Did you have a nightmare?" I was sleeping.... Ohh that was just a dream.... My wife was there... she can hear me... This is the happiest moment of my life... I hugged her and whispered.... "YOU ARE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL AND CARING WIFE IN THIS UNIVERSE..... I REALLY LOVE YOU, DEAR" I can't understand the reason of the smile on her face with some tears in her eyes, still I'm happy.... "THANK YOU GOD FOR THIS SECOND CHANCE." SO, now it's not late... Forget the egos, the Past... and express your love to others....... Be friendly... Keep smiling...... forever....It is another chance For you... Please let us do things more sincerely...

A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty." - Sir Winston Churchill
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"Life ends when u stop dreaming,

hope ends when u stop believing,
love ends when u stop caring,
Friendship ends when u stop sharing".

 

If you have time and spiritual disposition then read......and it will benefit you........or delete ......

A Birth Certificate shows that we were born

A marriage certificate shows we are married
A Death Certificate shows that we died
Pictures show that we lived!
Have a seat . Relax . . .
And read this slowly.

I Believe...
That just because two people argue,
It doesn't mean they don't love each other.
And just because they don't argue,
It doesn't mean they do love each other.

I Believe...
That we don't have to change friends if
We understand that friends change.

I Believe....
That no matter how good a friend is,
they're going to hurt you every once in a while
and you must forgive them for that.


I Believe...
That true friendship continues to grow,
even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.

I Believe...
That you can do something in an instant
That will give you heartache for life.


I Believe....
That it's taking me a long time
To become the person I want to be.

I Believe...
That you should always leave loved ones with
Loving words. It may be the last time you see them.


I Believe....
That you can keep going long after you think you can't.


I Believe....
That we are responsible for what
We do, no matter how we feel.


I Believe...
That either you control your attitude or it controls you.


I Believe...
Those heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs
to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I Believe....
That my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.


I Believe....
That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down
will be the ones to help you get back up.

I Believe...
That sometimes when I'm angry
I have the right to be angry,
But that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.


I Believe....
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had
And what you've learned from them and less to do with how many
birthdays you've celebrated.

I Believe....
That it isn't always enough,
to be forgiven by others.
Sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself.


I Believe...
That no matter how bad your heart is broken
the world doesn't stop for your grief.


I Believe....
That our background and circumstances
may have influenced who we are,
But, we are responsible for who we become.

I Believe...
That you shouldn't be so eager to find
Out a secret. It could change your life Forever.


I Believe....
Two people can look at the exact same
Thing and see something totally different.

I Believe...
That your life can be changed in a matter of
Hours by people who don't even know you.


I Believe...
That even when you think you have no more to give,
When a friend cries out to you -
you will find the strength to help.


I Believe...
That credentials on the wall
do not make you a decent human being.

I Believe...
That the people you care about most in life
are taken from you too soon.


'The happiest of people don't necessarily
have the best of everything;
They just make the most of everything they have. 

HARDEST THING TO BREAK

 

HARDEST THING TO BREAK     WHAT is it that's hard to break??? v Diamonds are hard to find but not hard to Break..           What is the hardest thing to break then?          ;                           The answer is: HABIT!                       ;                                 If you break the H, you still have A BIT. If you break the A, you still haveBIT. If you break the B, you still have IT!   Hey, after you break the T in IT, there is still the 'I'. And that (I) is the root cause of all the problems. Now you know why HABIT is so hard to break…. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------           You think it is a frog and I think it is a horse! Wait for a while Moral: We have to respect each other's opinion and view;           We just need to wait and listen actively to others' point of view! Have a nice day….

 

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